Keeping Your Loved One Engaged

Keeping your loved one engaged can be challenging. Across the country, about 40 million Americans are doing an overwhelming, stressful and exhausting unpaid job every day. They cook meals, drive to appointments, manage medication, perform complex medical tasks and more. They help parents, spouses and other loved ones live independently at home — where they want to be. They are family caregivers.

This is my life now, along with my brother caring for mom at home with dementia. After losing my father in early 2016, mom sunk into a deep depression on top of the dementia she seemed to be slipping away. We noticed she had no focus on any of the things she always liked to do. As time went on a number of challenges began to surface. Here are a few of them and ways we handled them,

In an effort to deal with the challenge of engaging mom in some activity rather than just melting away. I started playing card games, board games and watching TV game shows that kept her mind active and thinking. She seems to cheer up a bit and was soon talking to the TV answering the game show questions. She especially liked, Family Feud, The Price is Right, Jeopardy and several others. This seemed to really keep her engaged and the mind churning.

The next issue that we faced was a constant fight to get her to eat and drink. She would eat small amount a good balanced dinner, but would not eat anything throughout the day. I started baking oatmeal cookies, bran and banana muffins and she seemed to really like those. So finally with a piece of fruit, we got her eating small amounts throughout the day.

Taking her medications was the next battle. I would place her seven day pill box on the table each morning with some water and her coffee, and she would push the pill box away. At one point, she hid the pill box and then, of course when we questioned her she denied it and finally admitted it but couldn’t remember where she hid the box.

If you’re a family caregiver, you’re not alone.helping hands

There are a lot of resources available to help with care-giving and financial needs. At this point with my mom, she does not want strangers coming to the house and she opposes coming to a community center for engagement. She is adamant about staying in her own home and does not accept the severity of her condition. In time, it is our hope she will open up to the idea, but for now we are not pressing her.

Taking care of mom is my top priority so I have been able to build a home based business that allows me to work anytime, anywhere I want. Choosing my own hours helps to ensure mom gets to every doctor appointment, which often takes most of the day. If you find interest in building a home business, I can help you get started. Let’s get connected!

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10 Ways to Deal With Home Caregiver Stress

Studies show that an estimated 21% of households in the United States are impacted by caregiving responsibilities, according to AARP.  Caregivers provide care to someone age 18 and older who is ill or has a disability. Helping to care for elderly parents, a disabled child or veteran in the home, often will cause home caregiver stress and an emotional toll. One study found that as many as one in three caregivers rate their stress level as high.caregiving stress

There are a number of reasons home caregiver stress is affecting so many households. The desires of the family or patient to stay in their own home, the expense of caregiving facilities and the concern of the quality of care are among a few things that the number of home caregivers if growing.

I personally have found myself in this situation, caring for my mother who has dementia. My brother and I share the responsibilities of her care from home after my father unexpectedly passed away early 2016. It has been a struggle to balance our lives and care. She does not want to be removed from her home and does not want strangers coming in to assist with caregiving. We are working hard to comply with her wishes but she does continue to decline. The dementia and severe depression of the loss of my dad after 62 years married is taking a toll. And in turn, causing home caregiver stress on myself and brother.

But when you’re caring for others, it’s critical that you first take care of yourself. By not doing so, you put yourself at risk of exhaustion, health problems and even total burnout.

These 10 tips will help keep your caregiver stress in check:

1.Put your physical needs first

Maintain a nutritious diet and get enough good quality sleep. Half of home caregivers who said their health had gotten worse due to caregiving also said the decline in their health has affected their ability to provide care.

2. Connect with friends

Isolation increases stress. Getting together regularly with friends can keep negative emotions at bay.

3. Ask for help

Make a list of things you have to do and seek help from friends and neighbors in your area. Even faraway relatives and friends can manage certain tasks.

4. Call on community resources

Consider asking a geriatric care manager to coordinate all aspects of your loved one’s care. Volunteers or staff from faith-based organizations or civic groups might visit, cook or help you with driving.

5. Take a break

You deserve it. Plus, your ailing family member might benefit from someone else’s company.

6. Deal with your feelings

Bottling up your emotions takes a toll on your psyche — and even on your physical well-being. Share feelings of frustration with friends and family.  Seek support from co-workers who are in a similar situation.

7. Find time to relax

Doing something you enjoy, such as reading, walking or listening to music, can recharge your batteries. Even do some meditation to soothe yourself.

8. Get organized

Simple tools like calendars and to-do lists can help you. Even consider an erasable board with the day of the week and current date with daily priorities.

9.Just say no

Accept the fact that you simply can’t do everything! Resist the urge to take on more activities, projects or financial obligations than you can handle.

10. Stay positive

Do your best to avoid negativity. This can be extremely difficult when the loved one is in physical or emotional pain. Reading motivational books or listening to sound tracks can help a lot.

Along with the physical and emotional stress of home caregiving often the financial stress can play a major role. It may even prevent the caregiver from leaving the home to work due to the necessary care of their loved one. Consider a work from home business where you can work any time, any hours you want. This is very possible to be successful and relieve your financial burdens. I have been working with a program that has resolved this situation and I would love to share it with you. This may not be a fit for you and I understand, no problem. Take a look and see if this can help ease your stress level. Click Here Now!

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Here’s The #1 Way To Survive A Storm – And I Can Prove It!

Have you ever been faced with the problem of how to survive a storm? Regardless of what the problem we define as a storm, all kinds of emotions can take over. There can be storms of struggle, from cancer, severe depression, drug addictions, alcoholism, even writers block for professionals. To survive a storm comes a good opportunity to build strength and stability within ourselves. As promised, I will provide the #1 way to survive a little later on and I CAN prove it. After your struggle in a storm comes a calmness and fulfillment that can change your life.

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Each individual will take a different path to survive a storm. Every human feels emotions in a different way, with different solutions. Finding your solution may be painful but can be well worth the venture.

I wanted to share with you my recent personal story that prompted me to write this blog. On October 7, 2016, the east coast of Florida was impacted by a major Category 4 Hurricane Matthew. Living in Cocoa Beach, considered to be a barrier island, mandatory evacuations were issued. I began preparation to secure my home and get together all the necessary supplies, needed to survive a storm. Even though news coverage and area authorities were stressing the need to leave the island due to this deadly storm, I was reluctant to leave my home. Now normally I respond quickly and take heed to this warnings, but I had just returned home from a month away. So I made my plan to secure everything and set up my safe place in the center of the house, a downstairs shower. I laid down comforters and padded with lots of pillows, flashlights, radio and a good book to read. A must read, click here to get your copy Ray Higdon, Vibrational Money Immersion.

So I settled in and soon heard the winds start to howl and rain beating hard on the glass doors. As it became louder and louder, I resisted going to take a peak at the window. I could hear objects flying and loud crashes but it was just to dangerous, I couldn’t do anything now. Hours went by and the howling wind and rain was relentless. Crashing and banging off and on, I was so numb and surrounded by a violent force that I just had to wait it out. To say I was scared and feared my life is an understatement. I admitted I had made a huge mistake by not heeded the warning to evacuate. A few more hours past and finally the wind and rain began to subside, I worked up enough courage to peak out the window. There was lots of debris, downed trees and standing water outside. But going through the house I had no damage or water intrusion, so all seemed well. Of course there was no power, but I had made it, survived the storm.

The winds were still blowing really hard, so going outside was not an option. I kept thinking, I’m fine, everything will be fine. I truly believed I will survive. Within a few hours, the winds finally did die down a bit and I was able to walk outside to check for further damage. There was lots of damage, large trees and fences, debris all over the place. And then I turned the corner to see the aluminum carport awning had fallen down crushing my car, oh the shock, when I thought all was fairly in decent shape. The ironic thing is that heavy tar paper and large vent from a high rise building almost a mile away had blew off and landed on top of my carport crushing the car. But I was alive, no one was hurt, and I am living proof. My point in this story is firstly, do not take it lightly when authorities call for evacuations, I admit I made a bad chose. Secondly, if you find yourself in such a situation, Believe that you can make it using caution and determination.

As promised, Here’s The #1 Way To Survive A Storm, no matter what your storm may be, a weather occurrence, cancer, severe depression, drug addictions, alcoholism, anything, Mindset can help you survive. You mind can play tricks on you and make you feel like giving up, not believing you can survive and get through this. I believed and stayed positive and truly believe that helped me stay calm and survive. To learn more about the Power of the Mind, Click Here! The Mind is Powerful and help everyone through life’s struggles.

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